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Finding My True Love At Last

Posted on Oct 2nd, 2009 by Nicole : wakingdreamer Nicole
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I have been so busy living the joy of being deeply in love with a wonderful, wonderful person that it only just hit me this minute that I have not yet blogged about this very significant turning point in my life.

The first thing I want to say about it is how totally different this love is from other loves I have experienced. I was always the one who pursued, and planned and organised, from the beginning to the end. Though that never worked out, I continued compulsively to carry out this unproductive approach.

This time, I asked the Universe to help me let go of this tendency in me. I opened my heart and my hands and asked simply for the grace to be found by my true love, whoever he might be. I did not make a long shopping list of what I wanted and what I didn`t want. I knew that whoever found me in the natural Universal way would be exactly the right person, at last.

So, what happened was this. I was going to Toronto on business and wanted to get together with Amy while there. Amy invited her friend Liza, then we invited Carole, Tom and Brock (who couldn`t come), and Sheila and Rita (who did come). 

Robert (whom you all know as Just Me here on Gaia) saw that all this planning was going on, and asked to join us. Of course we were delighted, the more the merrier, though I didn`t know much about him. I had seen some of his comments and thought that he seemed wise, but he was a mystery to me.

During our get-together, Robert and I did talk for a bit, but we mostly talked to other people. To be honest, his self-composure and self-contained manner led to my assumption he was married, so without even being conscious of it, I automatically held him at arms` length, polite and kind but not too warm.

The next few days were intensely busy for me with work commitments but in between of course I was eager to connect with those I had just met, Amy, Rita, Sheila, and... when I got to Robert, I felt a bit puzzled. I realised that I had not heard him say anything about his family. So I emailed him and asked, and from his reply realised he was no longer married, and had been through a lot. We exchanged a few emails and then on Friday he called me and we spoke for nearly seven hours and as they say - the rest  is history.

In all our long conversations on the phone, in the exchange of emails with heartsharings and poems and music we love, we have grown closer together than seems humanly possible in such a short time.

I am experiencing profound gratitude and joy and wonder about it all.

Only 14 days to go before he arrives here for the weekend! Soon I will be counting the hours :)
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Under the Mercy, Under the Submission

Posted on Oct 5th, 2009 by Nicole : wakingdreamer Nicole
In my long leisurely rambles on the phone with my beloved, I have been reminded several times of the legacy of Charles Williams:

"Charles Walter Stansby Williams (20 September 1886 – 15 May 1945) was a British poet, novelist, theologian, literary critic, and a member of the Inklings.

"Although chiefly remembered as a novelist, Williams also published works of literary criticism, theology, drama, history, biography, and a voluminous number of book reviews. Some of his best known novels are War in Heaven (1930), Descent into Hell (1937), and All Hallows' Eve(1945). T. S. Eliot, who wrote an introduction for the last of these, described Williams’s novels as "supernatural thrillers" because they explore the sacramental intersection of the physical with the spiritual while also examining the ways in which power, even spiritual power, can corrupt as well as sanctify. All of Williams’ fantasies, unlike those of J. R. R. Tolkien and most of those of C. S. Lewis, are set in the contemporary world.

"Although Williams attracted the attention and admiration of some of the most notable writers of his day, including T. S. Eliot and W. H. Auden, his greatest admirer was probably C. S. Lewis, whose novel That Hideous Strength was at the time regarded as entirely inspired by Williams's novels. Williams came to know Lewis after reading Lewis’s recently published study The Allegory of Love; he was so impressed he jotted down a letter of congratulations and dropped it in the mail. Coincidentally, Lewis had just finished reading Williams’s novel The Place of the Lion and had written a similar note of congratulations. The letters crossed in the mail and led to an enduring and fruitful friendship. When World War IIbroke out in 1939, Oxford University Press moved its offices from London to Oxford. Although Williams was reluctant to leave his beloved city, this move did allow him to participate regularly in Lewis’s literary society known as the Inklings. In this setting Williams was able to read (and improve) his final published novel, All Hallows' Eve, as well as to hear J. R. R. Tolkien read some of his early drafts of The Lord of the Ringsaloud to the group. In addition to meeting in Lewis’ rooms at Oxford, they also regularly met at The Eagle and Child pub in Oxford (better known by its nickname "The Bird and Baby"). During this time Williams also gave lectures at Oxford on John Milton and received an honorary M.A. degree."

Under the Mercy


"The grave of Charles Williams in an Oxford churchyard (Holywell*) is marked by a stone bearing his name and the terse description: Poet, followed by the words, Under the Mercy.

"Under the Mercy is a phrase that appears frequently in his writings, as it did in his conversation. He liked to refer to the Divinity by Its Attributes: the Mercy, the Protection, the Omnipotence. In his personal life he seemed always to be clinging to the faith that, balanced as he was upon the knife-edge of his Christian allegiance in the world of myth and magic that his passion-inflamed imagination had conjured up, he would find at last, in death if by no other route, the stillness of the Love of God. It was his wife, Michal, in one of those sudden flashes of crystal-clear insight of which she was not infrequently capable, who chose the inscription on the stone. Nothing could have been more appropriate."

There is another phrase that appears in his book Many Dimensions (1931), which "involves the reappearance of a long-lost talisman, this time the Stone of Solomon, which turns out to have extraordinary powers over space and time (but using the latter has unexpected results!), as well as powers of healing. The book's climax is a kind of judicial hearing by the Lord Chief Justice on what should be done with this thing; justice and law are prominent themes in the book - which is also both a thriller and at times a satire, as various parties try to get their hands on the Stone." This phrase is Under the Submission. Williams seemed to understand deeply the spirit of Islam and how powerful and freeing submission to Allah could be.

Just a heads-up, as I think I will be using these phrases to sign off again, as I did for years as a younger woman. Now you know part of the context. The rest of the context is found for me right now in my relationship with my beloved and others I love, the joyful and mutual self-giving enfolded in divine Grace.




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Blog Action Day 2009 - Thursday October 15

Posted on Oct 7th, 2009 by Nicole : wakingdreamer Nicole
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Climate change affects us all and it threatens more than the environment. It threatens to cause famine, flooding, war, and millions of refugees. 

Given the urgency of the issue of climate change and the upcoming international climate negotiations in Copenhagen this December, we think the blogosphere has the unique opportunity to mobilize millions of people around expressing support for finding a sustainable solution to the climate crisis.We encourage you to write about climate change in the context of how it relates to the topic of your blog. 

To help you start thinking, here are a few ideas about how you might connect climate change to things that you might already write about:

A Technology or Business blog might write about emerging clean tech and how innovative companies might be able to help address the problem of climate change.

A Health or Lifestyle blog might write about how climate change will affect our children's health and daily living.A Nonprofit or Political blog might write about how climate change is deeply connected to many other issues - such as poverty and conflict.

A Design blog might write about new trends in eco-friendly or sustainable design.

A Travel blog might write about the places you want to see now before climate change makes them difficult to access or, well, under the sea.

 

Blog Action Day 2009

 


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What has your response been to climate change?

Posted on Oct 15th, 2009 by Nicole : wakingdreamer Nicole
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for October 15, 2009:

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Yes, in case anyone forgot :) , this is Blog Action Day 2009: Climate Change

So, as always, fascinating to see the different perspectives.

My lifestyle has not yet changed enough. Yes, I continue to recycle, reuse, try to reduce garbage. But I still drive that car. I still have a very large Carbon Footprint

What to do? How to change, really? 

Maybe moving to a smaller community where I can realistically do a lot of errands etc on foot or bike will be part of the answer. Perhaps being with someone who is so whole-heartedly committed to a truly alternative lifestyle will influence me to change further.

I hope so.

I understand there are still those who doubt the validity of climate change. This is a helpful wiki: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scientific_opinion_on_climate_change

We cannot know for sure at this time if our efforts will make a difference or if we have already passed the tipping point. But we can at least try, not just for worries of climate change but just because it is far better for our planet.

Such a heartbreakingly beautiful planet, let us cherish her.

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True Compassion - your invitation to discuss :)

Posted on Oct 19th, 2009 by Nicole : wakingdreamer Nicole
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Dearest friends,

I invite you to comment here or over in the God pod here: True Compassion - your invitation to discuss :)

What better place than in a board called Radical acts of compassion to discuss what true compassion is?

This discussion began with a distinction between compassion and idiot compassion in the thread where we were discussing Rush Limbaugh.

I would like to begin by thanking Mascha, mary and others who have recently inspired me to look much more deeply at this issue.

There is a fairly good wiki overview here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compassion:

In the various Hindu traditions, compassion is called DAYA, and, along with charity and self-control, is one of the three central virtues...

Compassion or karuna is at the transcendental and experiential heart of the Buddha's teachings. He was reputedly asked by his secretary, Ananda, "Would it be true to say that the cultivation of loving kindness and compassion is a part of our practice?" To which the Buddha replied, "No. It would not be true to say that the cultivation of loving kindness and compassion is part of our practice. It would be true to say that the cultivation of loving kindess and compassion is all of our practice."...

Compassion for all life, human and non-human, is central to the Jain tradition...

(In the Jewish tradition) Compassion, empathy, altruism, kindness and love are frequently used interchangeably in common usage. When the concept is examined in depth it becomes clear that compassion is more than simply a human emotion. Kabbalah, the Jewish mystical tradition, is particularly clear about this...

 The life of Jesus embodies for Christiansthe very essence of compassion. Christ's example challenges Christians to forsake their own desires and to act compassionately towards others, particularly those in need or distress...

The Muslim scriptures urge compassion towards captives as well as to widows, orphans and the poor. Traditionally, Zakat, a toll tax to help the poor and needy, was obligatory upon all Muslims (9:60). One of the practical purposes of fasting orsawm during the month of Ramadan is to help one empathize with the hunger pangs of those less fortunate, to enhance sensitivity to the suffering of others and develop compassion for the poor and destitute.

So, it would appear that compassion is very, very important across religious traditions. Yet compassion is often absent from religious interactions within communities and from the way that many religious people deal with people of different beliefs.

What is compassion really? How do we become more truly compassionate? What are some of the pitfalls into which we can fall while seeking to be compassionate (i.e. co-dependency, enabling negative behaviours and so on)?

I eagerly look forward to exploring this in depth with you all.

Love,

Nicole

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